The Mirror Effect

"You marry your unconscious mind. Let me repeat that — You marry your
unconscious mind. That means that any area of your life which is not in
harmony will surface the further you go into a marriage, in order to be
worked on and then cleared."
— Yvonne Oswald, Keyspeech, 9 Keys to Inner Power

The mirror effect works in many ways. Often in marriage, we marry our
mirrored selves so that we can effectively work out our life issues
with them. It is usually easier to see problems in others, instead of
ourselves. If we are aware enough, we can see through the blame and
accusations that we tend to easily dish out to our companions, family,
and friends, and we can start learning what issues we need to work
through and clear.

Give it a test. Take a situation or complaint you have with your spouse
or partner, or friend and write it down on paper. Then substitute their
name with your own name and see if the sentence is true to your case as
well. Also, make sure you know what time frame you are working in —
past or present. Does that sentence apply to you or your partner now or
is it a past issue that you are clinging to because you have not
forgiven yourself of your own past actions?

Also, be sure to learn to distinguish between your own limiting beliefs
about yourself and what is an actual true fact. There are many things
we may believe about ourselves that do not hold true. When you catch
yourself making these types of judgments about others, we should
examine if we are holding on to these limiting beliefs about ourselves
on a subconscious level of being.